Even though grief is a universal reaction to any kind of loss, it can be surrounded by numerous misconceptions and myths. Here are some of the most common myths about grief, and explanations that will help you understand the variations and ranges of grief.
At many companies, the standard bereavement leave policy is three days. Does that mean that in three days after a death, you are expected to be back to business as usual? Certainly not. Three days gives you time to deal with the immediate aftermath of someone's death, but recovery from grief can take weeks, months and even years. Each person's grief journey is different.
Not true. There is tremendous variation in styles of grieving, including cultural variations related to grief and traditions, and variations in how long and how intensely people grieve. Some people can work through grief relatively easily, while others may struggle for years.
It Takes About a Year to "Get Over" a Significant Loss
Not true, because each person's experience is different. A survivor whose loved one died after a long history of Alzheimer's disease, for example, may experience a relatively short grief response after the death. He or she may have grieved the loss of the loved one's personality during long years of progressive decline that lead up to the death. A parent whose child died suddenly years ago, however, may never fully recover from the loss. 一般認為，強烈的哀傷會持續三個月至一年，而有些人會在兩年或更長的時間裡仍持續體驗到哀傷。 For many, grief simply changes and evolves over time, and it manifests itself in different ways as time passes.
Simply not true. There is no grieving contest and no winner.您必須真實體會自己的感受，並在您準備好時，按照自己的步調重新開始生活。 Your grief has no bearing on another's grief, nor on the depth of your feelings for the person who has died.