Special days play a role in keeping alive the memories of loved ones who have died, but they can also be bittersweet experiences for if you are still in mourning.
Anniversaries, holidays and birthdays have the power to trigger memories of good times past. They remind survivors, sometimes painfully, that your loved one isn't here this year.
But special days can also provide opportunities to remember the good times that were once shared with loved ones. They give you a chance to think about, talk about or take actions that honor someone who continues to be special and important. They create occasions to invite others to join your process of remembering.
在假日、紀念日或特殊日子裡表達敬意並沒有一種所謂「正確的方式」。 Each person, each memory is special. Consider your options and choose the activities that are most meaningful to you and to the memories you want to honor on behalf of your loved one.
Start By Asking Questions:
- Will this be a standalone event or part of another event?何時、何地？
- Will be planned or spontaneous? Will it involve informal sharing, reading, symbolic action or something else?
- Will it result in something tangible, such as the dedication or a memorial, a donation, a fund or community service in honor of a loved one?
Consider A Range of Ideas...and Choose Personally:
- Visit favorite places and savor the memories you and your loved one share.
- Do something your loved one enjoyed: Attend a play, concert, theme park or baseball game.
Choose what feels right to mark a special birthday, anniversary or holiday in honor of your loved one. Even though that person is no longer here, remember that he or she continues to make a difference in your life.