You’ve lost a loved one—don’t lose yourself, too.
A significant loss can shatter a survivor's self-esteem, leaving you to pick up the pieces and put yourself back together. Perhaps you feel you could have done more to prevent the loss, that you somehow failed the person who is gone. 失去至親後，您有可能會感到無助或生命中「少」了什麼東西。如果您對您的至親有特別的感受和愛，您現在也許不會有這樣的感受。
Cultivate relationships with people who affirm who you are and are honest with you-the friends and acquaintances who help you grow. 願意為您做太多事情的人，從長遠看並不是在幫助您。
Frequent self-disparaging remarks are a sure sign of low self-esteem: "I never do anything right!" 試著寫下自我肯定的清單。 It takes practice, but when you notice that you are having a negative self-thought, try substituting a positive thought.
Growth in self-esteem comes from thinking, deciding and acting, no matter what you are feeling. Even when you don't feel good about yourself, you can decide to act in ways that are good for you. 例如，決定有更多的運動，因為您需要保持健康。您做出決定，採取行動時，您會自我感覺良好。
Take seriously your own ideas, feelings and wishes -just as you take others seriously and listen to them. 不要壓抑自己，而是告訴他人您的想法、感受和願望。當您不以抱怨或攻擊的方式處理時，您和對方都會增加自尊。
Remember that no one gets close to perfect, and life is difficult at times. 我們都想做正確的事情。是人都會犯錯。我們理應愛自己 – 成為自己的最好朋友。